My mom lives with us and at 81 years old is still driving, taking care of herself, and very independent. She is a sweet lady, but she also can drive me to my breaking point at times. I know she has lived a very interesting life as she seems to have had a great childhood. ( Which is due to her parents being extraordinary people as I remember them) Her adult life has not been without problems but she has persevered and is enjoying life as a senior citizen.
She was in a very abusive marriage and from what I remember, I don't believe many good times during those 18 years. She remained until I was 13 and I politely told her after she was beaten, kicked out in the rain with me, and we spent many hours trying to find a place to stay( all while walking in the pouring rain) that if she returned to him, I was living with my grandparents. She finally filed for divorce and stuck with it! I am sure she still loved me dad as she never remarried or dated after that and she would visit with him and his new girlfriend for several years. I am just not sure that I believe in a love that is that true. I truly love my husband but I can't imagine loving a man that beat me and threatened my life and that of my children.
For those reasons, I was thinking this week as to what the perfect gift would be for her. She truly needs nothing and she spends time with me so just what should I get for her? I truly have no ideas. I thought of a nice lunch or breakfast out, but she really is not into that kind of thing and we see each other often, so that is not a special treat. She is not into manicures, new clothes, etc. so once again, I am still attempting to find that perfect gift.