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Thursday, May 25, 2017

Rain Rain Go Away

I remember a little poem that my mom used to read to me that said:
"Rain Rain Go Away, Come again another day, Jimmy and Joe want to play". I am sure she inserted the names but this is the perfect saying for today. Yet again, we are having rain that began yesterday morning and is continuing still. These are not just spring showers, but for periods of time, simply downpours.

I don't mind spring rain and I know that the farmers need it. I am glad that we are not suffering through a drought, but it's becoming a nuisance because it is daily that we are having heavy rains. There are multiple areas of flooding regularly now and many activities are being put on hold. I know some farmers have had to replant many fields due to the heavy rains that have completely destroyed farm fields that were planted early. Those actions are only leading to less money being made and that means the difference between profit being made or just breaking even for many farmers these days. I have friends that are strictly farm families and that is their livelihood.

My reason for wanting the rain to stop is that is Memorial Day weekend. We leave for camp today and I do not like to be in the rain and I hate trying to keep my feet dry as I walk. I have misplaced my rain boots and I really don't want to purchase a new pair. I have my cowboy boots but they don't always do the trick in keeping my feet dry. Besides raining on my parade, I hate to see the local activities rained out for the weekend.

On Saturday, there will be thousands that line the streets of Indianapolis, Indiana for the Indy 500 parade. Sitting on those bleachers to watch a parade in the rain to see rain soaked floats and bands would not be enjoyable. Plus on Sunday, it is the 101st running of the Indy 500 and that race is the "largest spectacle in racing" and brings thousands of people to the Indianapolis area. Race fans are dedicated and many will be there no matter what the weather. Do drivers truly want to prepare to run speeds of over 115 miles per hour on a track that has been rained on for days? I believe the answer will be " NO".  I know that the Speedway has dryers for the track and all that equipment to make it possible to race in many conditions, but crowds will be lower if it is pouring rain.

Many local people will be looking to go to the cemetery to visit family that has left this earthly home and no one wants to do that in the rain. Many of my craft friends are setting up at  local outdoor events for the weekend to earn sales that you can only earn on holiday weekends. That income, again like the farm families, is their livelihood.

Many people are just celebrating the long weekend and would enjoy some nice time outside. I believe it is possible to feel that asking for three or four rain free days is a simple request, but one that we have been finding escapes us weekly.

Sunday, May 21, 2017

Teaching Choices

As a mom, I can't say that I have always done what I should have in every situation. I had my moments of frustration, moments of thinking I was a failure, moments of not really wanting to be a mom. Did those moments make me a bad mom? No! Did it make me a poor example? No! Those moments were learning moments for myself and my children.

That time, those short 18 years, were my time to teach my children to make choices and how those choices would have consequences. I know many parents that do not let their children make choices on their own, but we have a responsibility to teach them to make choices. If you are a Christian mother, you want your children to make Godly and wise choices. If you aren't a Christian, you still want your children to make wise choices. How can we expect them to if we don't teach them to do that?

Small children can be taught to make decisions that will make choices in the future easier for them. Our failures can be lessons to them as well as theirs are. As a parent, we have that responsibility to teach them in the way that we hope that they will go. We need to want them to be so much better than what we have been. We don't want them hurt or sad, but sometimes we have to let them learn a hard lesson. Proverbs 22:6 says " Train up a child in the way he should g: and when he is old he will not depart from it". How much simpler could our job as a parent be told to us?

As parents, we need to raise our children to make decisions a little at a time and learn from those decisions so that as they age and go out on their own they are equipped with the knowledge that they know. We can protect and teach without hovering although that can be a thin line at time. I have always allowed my older daughter to make decisions on her own. They were not always right, but she learned when she was wrong and she dealt with the consequences that came from those. She is mature and very set in her ways. Most of her decisions though are good ones.  My youngest is not as mature and does not easily learn from her mistakes because she was with her grandmother often because of my work schedule and was not able to make decisions as much on her own and never faced consequences of the ones she did make wrong. I regret my parenting with her and the choices that I made with her life. I can't take those moments back, but I still attempt to teach her.

We made a decision to home school our children and I am thankful that we did. Both of my daughters have avoided the drugs that many of their friends who attended public school did not . Both of my daughters are adults that have never partied or been to jail. Many decisions were tough while they were in school, but I am so thankful that I was there to aid in those decisions or at least there to pick up the pieces of a wrong choice. Even school subjects were choices they could make. I even allowed days that they could choose what we were doing for the day. Some days they might choose a day off, but they learned that the consequence was the next day was more school than the day would normally be.

Teach our children, allow them to make decisions on their own, talk to them, correct them when they are wrong, walk with them, read with them, Teach them! It is our responsibility!!!

Saturday, May 20, 2017

Planning A Birthday Party

Hard to believe that the precious little body that I held and was totally amazed by that we had learned of only 19 hours earlier is now turning two! Yes, the child that was such a surprise still amazes me as to what she knows and can do. Now we are planning another birthday party.

My princess will be the honorary guest today at her party. She loves Minnie Mouse and so that is the theme my daughter chose. After making some frantic phone calls yesterday, I was able to have a cake made by Kroger with Minnie on it. I thought the cake was ordered and found at it was not and most places wanted 48 hours to get it ready. UGH!! I did not have 48 hours. My daughter just thought that she could wait to get it until she got ice cream today.

Decorations are a must at a party and so I was able to pitch in on them and found some nice centerpieces and other items that we can use for tables and for the room. I love the swirls that hang down and although I did not get Minnie Mouse, I was able to get some that said Birthday Girl. I believe we have some pink streamers and I am sure that it will be beautiful!  I will post photos later.

We have themed napkins, plates, cups, party bags for the kids, and decorations. We also have plain white plates and cups for the adults as well as plastic ware. We have cake, chips, hot dogs, condiments, and ice cream. Drinks and ice are a plus at any party. I believe that we have all the supplies that we need.

Camera is ready and gifts are packaged and ready to be delivered. Guests are excited and the weather seems to be going to cooperate even though it is cloudy and was raining earlier. I have an hour to work this morning and then I plan to help get loose ends tied up and then visit with my friends when they arrive at the party.

Hope you all have a great weekend! We will be partying today and playing with new toys and gifts tomorrow!!!


Sunday, May 14, 2017

Perfect Gift

Happy Mothers' Day to all of the women in the world that enjoy this day. I realize that for some women this is not a happy day at all. Many have dealt with infertility, loss of a child, and have dealt with not being raised by a good mother. For the women that do not see this as a day of happiness, let me say I am sorry. Sorry for the loss or infertility, sorry for being raised with a mother that did not appreciate you for all that you are, and sorry that you can't enjoy such a special day of the year, as the rest of us see it.

My mom lives with us and at 81 years old is still driving, taking care of herself, and very independent. She is a sweet lady, but she also can drive me to my breaking point at times. I know she has lived a very interesting life as she seems to have had a great childhood. ( Which is due to her parents being extraordinary people as I remember them) Her adult life has not been without problems but she has persevered and is enjoying life as a senior citizen.

She was in a very abusive marriage and from what I remember, I don't believe many good times during those 18 years. She remained until I was 13 and I politely told her after she was beaten, kicked out in the rain with me, and we spent many hours trying to find a place to stay( all while walking in the pouring rain) that if she returned to him, I was living with my grandparents. She finally filed for divorce and stuck with it! I am sure she still loved me dad as she never remarried or dated after that and she would visit with him and his new girlfriend for several years. I am just not sure that I believe in a love that is that true. I truly love my husband but I can't imagine loving a man that beat me and threatened my life and that of my children.

For those reasons, I was thinking this week as to what the perfect gift would be for her. She truly needs nothing and she spends time with me so just what should I get for her? I truly have no ideas. I thought of a nice lunch or breakfast out, but she really is not into that kind of thing and we see each other often, so that is not a special treat. She is not into manicures, new clothes, etc. so once again, I am still attempting to find that perfect gift.

This is my mother taken a year ago. I look a lot like her but we don't act alike at all. Totally different hobbies, life, etc. I am proud to call her mom!

Friday, May 5, 2017

Visiting Nashville, TN

I am heading out today, even in the rain, for a short weekend trip to Nashville, TN. I am super excited to be going with my friends. We are celebrating some of us turning 50. I don't see how that can be but they are.

Nashville, TN is known for country music and we will be seeing some of that as we tour the Country Music Hall of Fame at some point during the weekend. We also plan to tour a plantation and some vineyards. It should be a fun filled weekend. You will be filled in on how it goes as I will be posting photos and details when I return home.

There is lots of standing water around the farm here so I hope that the roads are fairly safe. I pray that the rain stops before we make it to our destination. I really don't want the entire weekend to be nasty. My husband will be home working so he will keep an eye on our property as I am gone. He will be watching the animals as well.

I hate leaving the grandbaby even though they are no longer at home. It is nice to walk across the yard and see her at any time though. I will miss her but I will be home shortly. It is time for me to leave so have a great weekend and I will be back early in the week.

Thursday, May 4, 2017

Beware! Lyme Disease and Tick Borne Illnesses

One big concern I have in the spring and summer here on the farm is the presence of ticks. For anyone that lives in the country, I am sure you are aware of just how much of a nuisance they can be. These little creatures can get on to your clothing or skin when you are outside and inch their way into your life. They become attached to the skin and can be hard to remove at times.

Removal of a tick that has burrowed into your skin can be difficult because if you are not careful, you can pull the tick off, but the head will become lodged under the skin as you will just remove the body. This can be a potentially dangerous act if that tick is a deer tick and happens to carry diseases, as many do. It is very important that you completely remove the tick.

You might ask why they are a big concern to me. My oldest daughter has chronic neurological Lyme disease from a tick bite. She has struggled with the illness for 9 years and will always struggle with it. The bacteria from the disease was behind her eyes when it was first found and if she had not have gotten treated when she did, she might have been blind within a few weeks. Those are scary words for a typically healthy 17 year old girl. Chronic neurological Lyme disease are also scary words to a healthy 17 year old and her parents.

I will tell more about our Lyme journey later, but I want to make everyone aware that Lyme Disease is real and can be very debilitating. Young or old, age really does not matter. This year is set to be a very heavily infested year for ticks so please beware. Do tick checks after being outside, especially in wooded areas. Also, be sure to wear tick repellent and long sleeve shirts and long pants if you are going to be hiking or walking in these areas. Just be aware of ticks and anytime you are outside, I recommend that you check yourself for them, especially if you are out in a rural area.

There is also a new threat. A new tick illness that is even more dangerous than Lyme is being seen this year and you can read about that here. Be careful and aware! Your health is important and Lyme Disease is a very unpleasant journey to travel.

Saturday 9 - Walk The Moon

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